Mobile Menu

  • Home
  • About Liggy
  • Books
    • Printed books
    • Digital books
  • Services
    • Webinars
    • Presentations
    • TV & Media
    • Learning
    • Resilience
  • Blog
    • Blog
    • Newsletters
    • Competition
    • Free resources
  • Contact Liggy
  • Help
    • FAQ – Digital BiteSized books
    • Digital BiteSized books – installation instructions
    • Shipping and delivery
  • Login
  • Search
  • E-mail
  • Facebook
  • LinkedIn
  • Twitter
  • Menu
  • Skip to right header navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

Before Header

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn
  • Twitter

cart-icon

Liggy Webb

Award-winning presenter and author

  • Home
  • About Liggy
  • Books
    • Printed books
    • Digital books
  • Services
    • Webinars
    • Presentations
    • TV & Media
    • Learning
    • Resilience
  • Blog
    • Blog
    • Newsletters
    • Competition
    • Free resources
  • Contact Liggy
  • Help
    • FAQ – Digital BiteSized books
    • Digital BiteSized books – installation instructions
    • Shipping and delivery
  • Login
  • Search
You are here: Home / General / Resilience – How to build your inner strength

09-Mar-2023 //  by Liggy

Resilience – How to build your inner strength

Resilience is a truly rich and multi-faceted life skill and is about embracing our “humanness” and understanding and accepting that we will inevitably experience setbacks and disappointments. We will make mistakes and get things wrong because we were not born to be perfect; we were born to be real.

Whilst I was researching my first book “Resilience – How to cope when everything around you keeps changing”, I had the privilege of interviewing people from all over the world, from lots of different backgrounds, who were generous enough to share their personal stories with me. This taught me a great deal about resilience, in addition to the wealth of scientific research around this fascinating subject.

So, before we even begin to explore resilience, I would like to emphasise first and foremost that being resilient is not about ‘toughing it out’, at any cost. Too often, especially in the work environment, I observe people doing this and sometimes to the detriment of their own physical and mental health.

What is resilience?

Resilience essentially is the process of adapting and recovering well from adversity, trauma, tragedy or threats. Some people describe resilience as: “the ability to bend, instead of breaking, when experiencing pressure” or “the ability to persevere and adapt, when faced with challenges”. The same abilities also help us to be more open and willing to take on new opportunities.

Something I have certainly learnt about resilience is that the curve balls and challenges that life inevitably throws at us, are often the most valuable lessons for building our resilience.

Take a journey of self-discovery

Self-awareness, self-confidence, and self-efficacy all play an essential role in helping us to cope better with stress and recover from difficult experiences. Knowing and understanding ourselves is the first port of call and being aware of our limitations and strengths is key.

Becoming more confident about our own ability to respond and deal with a crisis is a great way to build resilience for the future. Challenges can be steppingstones or stumbling block and it is very much a matter of how we view them and how much faith we have in our ability to embrace and navigate those challenges.

Be optimistic

Staying optimistic during dark periods can be difficult and it is important to maintain a hopeful outlook. Being an optimist does not mean being naive and ignoring the problem. It means understanding that setbacks are transient and that we have the skills and abilities to combat the challenges we face.

There is a risk when something difficult arises that we fall into the pessimistic trap of believing that everything is doom and gloom. So much of resilience is about how we choose to respond to each situation and an optimistic perspective will most certainly lead us in a more positive direction.

Take emotional control 

Being emotionally aware and recognising how we can potentially react in certain situations will help us to exercise more self-control. It will also help us to be more considerate with regards to how our response can affect other people. Keeping calm will allow us to manage our stress levels and gain a more balanced perspective.

Hot and high emotion can be exhausting so managing emotions during any ordeal will help us to focus our energy where it is best placed. People who are emotionally intelligent and understand their emotions are generally far more resilient.

Change for the better

We may not be able to control or change circumstances; however, we can absolutely choose and change our attitude towards them, so we are far more in control than you think. Flexibility is an essential part of being able to manage change and, by learning how to be more adaptable, we will be much better equipped to respond to any life crisis we may experience.

Resilient people often utilise these events as an opportunity to branch out in new directions. While some people may be crushed by abrupt changes, highly resilient people are able to embrace change and seek to use their energy to influence it.

Cope well with conflict

Conflict is an inevitable part of life and there is nothing wrong with it and is only when it becomes combat that it becomes problematic. We all have different personalities and along with those go we have our belief systems, values, perspectives, likes and dislikes.

Yes of course some conflict can be difficult and, at times, unsettling – especially if we take it personally and are highly sensitive about it. The outcome of conflict, however, can be very positive and it can help us to create new ideas, learn from others, understand ourselves better and improve our own communication.

Embrace probortunities

The word probortunity is a hybrid between the words “problem” and “opportunity” and looks at the concept of taking every problematic situation and seeking out the opportunity. It works on the premise that in every crisis an opportunity will arise and there will be some benefit. Personally, I have found it a very useful approach to dealing with problems and it has helped me to tackle them from a different angle and see them as challenges rather than barriers.

Developing a good set of problem-solving skills is a valuable toolkit to equip ourselves with too and knowing what practical steps to take can provide us with some extra confidence and ability.

Look after yourself

When we are feeling traumatised, stressed and upset, it can be all too easy to neglect our own well-being. Losing our appetite, overeating, not exercising, not getting enough sleep, drinking too much alcohol, not drinking enough water, driving ourselves too hard, are all common reactions to a crisis.

This is the time when we need to work on building our self-nurturance skills, especially when we are troubled. Making time to invest into our wellbeing will boost our overall health and resilience and we will be better equipped and energised to deal with life’s inevitable challenges.

Make great connections

Building and sustaining a strong network of supportive friends, family and work colleagues will act as a protective factor during times of difficulty. It is important to have people we trust and can confide in.

Whilst simply talking about a situation with a friend or loved one will not necessarily make troubles go away, it will allow us to share our feelings, gain support, receive feedback and come up with possible solutions to our problems. Listening to other people’s experiences can be useful too and, although we can’t always learn from others’ mistakes, there will certainly be some good advice out there.

Keep going

“If you are going through hell, keep going.”

This is a quote that is attributed to Winston Churchill and sometimes we simply need to keep calm and keep going. In doing this however, it is not about toughing it out at any cost as I mentioned before. A string focus on self-care and being mindful of tapping into our healthy coping mechanisms are essential.

As we journey through life’s challenges it is also important to let go of any of the angst that we experience rather than carrying lots of negative baggage with us. Being able to able to draw a line, take the constructive learning and focus on the positives of the future is about healthy recovery from any negative setback.

Looking to the future and creating a positive vision of where we would like to be and what we would like to attract into to our lives can help us to bounce forward and positive embrace the next chapter.


Special offer – 25% off

Save 25% on your copy of Liggy’s BiteSized book on Resilience by using coupon code SAVE25 at the checkout

BUY NOW
  • Resilience
    Resilience
    £2.99
    Add to basket

For updates for future blogs, free webinars and various other useful resources please do join my newsletter.

Click here to sign up to my newsletter

Related Posts

You may be interested in these posts from the same category.

5 ways to be a great collaborator

How to establish healthy personal boundaries

Winter Wellbeing

Celebrating World Mental Health Day

How to embrace lifelong learning

Loneliness – 10 ways to feel less lonely

Stress and self-pressure

How to work well from home – 10 top tips

10 ways to build empathy

How to fuel yourself well

How to build your winter resilience

World Kindness Day

Previous Post: « 5 ways to be a great collaborator

Primary Sidebar

Signup to Liggy’s newsletter…

Shop for BiteSized books

Recent Posts

Resilience – How to build your inner strength

09-Mar-2023

5 ways to be a great collaborator

12-Feb-2023

How to establish healthy personal boundaries

30-Jan-2023

Winter Wellbeing

05-Dec-2022

Categories

  • General
    • Burnout
    • Positive thinking
    • Resilience
    • Self care
  • TV & Media
    • Presentation videos
    • Radio interviews
    • Videos
  • Webinars
  • Wellness

Footer

Stella LeighSales Commission Manager, Royal Mail

These books are great, obviously lots of research behind the scenes, have been put into the books, but easy to read and so helpful with lots of great hints and tips. Very engaging.

Alistair StevensonEntertainer and Consultant

Liggy’s professionalism and knowledge is obviously outstanding in this field. Also her way of getting over complexity with amazing metaphors make this one of the best presentations I have ever seen.

Jonathan Kettleborough  Senior Lecturer, Information Systems Strategy, Manchester Metropolitan University

If books were like coffee, then most would be a large cappuccino; oversized, with foam, sprinkles and syrup – good to look at but difficult to digest.  On the other hand, Liggy’s books are like an espresso; perfectly short and balanced while at the same time delivering outstanding content and experience.

Erica ThorntonHead of UK Delivery and Development, Sported

In a fast paced world, Liggy’s bite sized books are perfect for quickly digesting invaluable information.

Simon GreenNational Account Manager, The SSH Group

A bitesized book by Liggy Webb is just enough to make the day a treat

Lynne MartinezLufthansa - Belgium

Liggy’s presentations are like Liggy herself; invigorating; thought provoking and fun! What better way to learn than from someone who leads by example.

Colette WadeVice President of Marketing and Business Development EMEA at Cornerstone OnDemand

It’s been an amazing experience working with Liggy, who brings so much energy, positivity and originality to everything we have done in partnership with her.

Kate ButlandUCAS

The Workplace Wellness session Liggy delivered at UCAS has been so well received by our staff. It is great to see so many people sign up to their personal action plan. The session has had a really positive impact on the department.

Rahima IslamCarrer & Development, Bureauveritas

People within the organisation have commented on how helpful they have found the advice in the bite sized books They make some great points with the main take away being the importance of having a positive and optimistic outlook on life.

Drew PrydeChairman, The Scottish Institute for Business Leaders (SIBL)

Liggy Webb’s resilience masterclass was undoubtedly one of the very best presentations to SIBL members in the past decade. It offers a series of insightful and practical ‘gems’ that really work in helping everyone to win through whatever challenges they are facing in their business and personal lives.

Site Footer

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn
  • Twitter
  • About Liggy
  • Contact Liggy
  • Terms and conditions
  • Privacy Policy
  • Sitemap

Copyright © 2023 · Liggy Webb · Log in