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Happy new decade!

Categories:  Personal development

Happy 2020

Happy new decade!

As we embark on a fresh new year and indeed a brand new decade, it is a time for making resolutions full of good intentions with hope for the future.
There are so many wonderful things that go on in the world and so many kind and inspiring people, however, these can at times become buried with negativity, complexity and chaos.

In order to maintain a healthy perspective and look after your mental health it is so important to actively seek out the silver linings in every situation.
To set the tone for my year I have put this poem up in my office as a creed for my decade. In my opinion, it is one of the most inspiring pieces of writing I have ever discovered.

It is a poem called Desiderata and was written in 1927 by Max Ehrmann, a poet and lawyer from Terre Haute, Indiana. The word Desiderata means “things that are desired”.

Embracing a new decade

Life can at times be quite challenging and Desiderata provides a concise and powerful reminder of how important it is to strive for what is important. The poem reminds us to treat each other kindly and to be gentle with ourselves. This, I personally believe is the perfect way to embrace life in the 2020’s.

I hope you find inspiration in these words…

 

Desiderata – A creed for life …


Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

***

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.

***

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

***

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

***

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

***

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

***

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

***

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

***

Happy 2020 and may it be filled with health, happiness, love and joy.
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HAPPY INTERNATIONAL DAY OF HAPPINESS - 20th March 2013

Categories:  Personal development

Multicoloured handsMarch 20 has been declared the International Day of Happiness!

193 United Nations member states have adopted a resolution calling for happiness to be given a greater priority.

Visit - www.actionforhappiness.org to become part of something very special

 

When the Dali Lama was asked what surprised him the most about humanity he answered with the following...

"Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money in order to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die and then he dies having never really lived."

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10 ways to feel good right now!

Categories:  Personal development

How to feel good10 ways to feel good right now!

When you are feeling low and need a boost here are ten ways to make you feel better!

1. List all your accomplishments

Sometimes you just need to remember all the positive things that you have achieved in your life so making a list to remind yourself will give you a confidence boost   

2. Do 10 minutes of exercise

Just a quick 10 minutes of exercise. Even if it is a quick run up and downstairs or standing up and stretching and walking about for a bit will give you an energy boost.

3. Find something to give away

If you have something you don’t need or use, and it might be something someone else might need or use, give it to them.

4. Lift someone else’s spirits

You can turn around bad feelings about yourself right away when you channel your energy into making someone feel good about themselves by doing or saying something nice.

5. Phone a friend

Who needs psychiatrist when you have friends? Friends can be walking, talking tonics and remind you that you are not alone!

6. Write down a goal

If you are feeling a bit low, think of something that would like to achieve and create a goal.

7. Relive your best memory

Focus on a wonderful, happy memory and take a few minutes to dwell on it. Go through all of the details and relive the experience in your mind and see how good it makes you feel.

8. Smile

Just the very act of smiling tells your brain that you are happy.

9. Let someone else decide

If you feel under pressure sometimes it is good to take the heat out of the situation and let someone else make the decision for you. You don’t always have to be in total control!

10 Turn off your computer and connect

Just connecting with another person will help you to feel less isolated and they may say something nice to you that will make you feel better.

A tribute to heroism

Categories:  Personal development

Today is the day we can wear our poppies with pride and remember all the men and women who sacrificed their lives and be truly grateful in the wake of their legacy.

Poppies in field

Remembrance Sunday is held on the second Sunday in November, which is the Sunday nearest to 11 November which is Armistice Day. This overlaps with Remembrance Day and Veterans Day which is celebrated every year on 11 November to commemorate the armistice signed between the Allies of World War I and Germany.

This took on the "eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month" of 1918 and today at 11am we will be encouraged to take a two minute silence to show our respect and pay tribute.

So many lives were lost and there are so many stories of heroism, it seems only fitting that we take responsibility to honour the amazing legacy. We can contribute so much by just being aware of our own behaviours and to taking time to think about our own contribution and how we can make a positive difference every day of our lives.

This poem is a tribute to those who sacrificed so much and is a very simple creed for life.

 

A Souls Obituary

by Liggy Webb

 

If you could write your own obituary what would it be

If your religion was kindness, could you say that was me

Were your days on this earth blessed with loving and living

Could you honestly say, there was less taking than giving

 

The people you’ve loved, did they know that you did

Or for fear of rejection were your feelings well hid

Did you love to your limit and embrace with your heart

When the clouds blocked the sun did you trust they’d part

 

When those souls that you loved were bereft and alone

Was your kindness enough to offer all that you own

If you could read your own obituary what would it be

If your past was a vision would you like what you see

 ...........

 

Praising what is lost makes the remembrance dear

William Shakespeare

Winter Wellness

Categories:  Personal development

I am just in the process of packing and getting ready to go to Geneva tomorrow to do some work with the UN. It will be nice to see some snow on top of Mont Blanc and Geneva certainly is a pretty place especially in the winter. I must admit I love this time of year because there are so many nice things about it. It is of course the time also when we can fall into the trap, if we are not careful, of moaning about the weather and not getting enough fresh air and exercise because it’s cold outside!

Winter Blues

Two hundred years ago 75% of the population worked outdoors now only 10% of the population work in natural outdoor light. 12 Million people across Northern Europe are affected by SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder. We are also more prone to comfort eat during the winter, consuming more sugary foods and refined carbohydrates! So making a conscious effort to really look after yourself in the winter will help you to feel healthier and happier.

 

Here are 10 ways to beat the bugs and blues

1. Manage your personal stress

Stress is often cited as a nasty precursor to deflating your immune system and leaving you more vulnerable to sneaky viruses. If you are feeling run down and over stretched it is time to slow down, sharpen your stress management skills and strengthen your immunity.

2. Exercise and energise

To keep your immune system healthy exercise is one of the best things that you can do. Wrap up warm and go for a lovely big walk. This is even better than going to the gym because you will get lots of fresh air and natural daylight.

3. Drink lots of water

Water may not be the drink of choice in the winter, however it is one of the best things that you can do to keep healthy and it is vital for all bodily functions. So keep a bottle with you at all times and keep sipping it throughout the day. There are some delicious herbal teas available and these will also add to your recommended quota of 2 litres a day.

4. Boost your vitamin C

Vitamin C is at the top of the list among natural immune boosters for your body. The research on the immune boosting properties of the vitamin has been extensive. So taking a supplement during the winter is a good idea and eat lots of seasonal fruit!

5. Eat yourself healthy

You can really protect your immune system by eating healthy food. Certain foods like garlic, ginger, tomatoes and onions are all great for warding off colds. Plenty of fruit and fresh vegetables will provide you with antioxidants and a whole host of vitamins and minerals. So let healthy food be your medicine.

6. Take Echinacea

Taking the herbal remedy Echinacea, according to research, can more than halve the risk of catching a common cold. It is made from nine species of herbaceous plants in the family Asteraceae which are commonly called purple coneflower. It is available in liquid, tablets and delicious herbal teas. Visit your local health shop to ask for more advice.

7. Reduce sugar

Eating or drinking 100 grams (8 tsp) of refined sugar, the equivalent of one 12-ounce can of sugary fizzy drink soda, can reduce the ability of white blood cells to kill germs by 40%. The immune-suppressing effect of refined sugar starts less than thirty minutes after ingestion and may last for five hours!

8. Drink alcohol in moderation

Despite the fact that it is the season to be jolly it doesn’t mean it has to be artificially induced! Excessive alcohol intake can harm the body's immune system in two ways. First, it produces an overall nutritional deficiency, depriving the body of valuable immune boosting nutrients.

9. Wash your hands

With more bugs abound it is important to wash your hands often and well especially before eating as this is one of the easiest ways to help prevent the spread of infections. Also, if you have a cold and you use a paper tissue throw them away after each use rather than keep using it as the germs will continue to transfer to your hands.

10. Sleep well

A good night’s rest is one of the best ways to boost your immune system. The quality of your sleep is very important too so that you feel energised at the start of each day. Cutting out caffeine and alcohol will help. Try a warm bath with lavender oil and a cup of camomile tea - it will work wonders.

In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer
Albert Camus

Believe in Yourself

Categories:  Personal development

I thoroughly enjoyed the Cheltenham Literature Festival and I feel I am so fortunate to live in a town that has so many great festivals on own doorstep. There certainly doesn’t ever seem be a dull moment! There was such an eclectic range of authors and how exciting to hear some of the rags to riches turnabouts that some have experienced. Certainly JK Rowling is a fine example of self belief and perseverance.

I am a very firm believer that a positive mental attitude and a faith in your own potential can help you to achieve some amazing things.

So here are a five tips to help you improve your confidence and self belief.

Take personal responsibility - You are ultimately responsible for everything in your life. Once you accept personal responsibility for that, you will be so much more self empowered and in control of your life.

Take action - Action gives you the power to change the circumstances or the situation. You can overcome inertia by doing something. Ask yourself this question - “What would I do if I knew I could not fail?” Now there is an exciting concept!

Be persistent - Successful people don’t just give up at the first hurdle. Successful people keep exploring different approaches to achieve their outcomes until they finally get the results they want. Persistence overcomes resistance!

Be kind to yourself - If something doesn’t work, don’t give yourself a hard time; move on and look towards the doors that are just about to open, not at the ones that have just closed.

Learn and grow - You have to be prepared to increase your failure rate if you want to increase your rate of success - Ask yourself the following questions.

  1. What was the mistake?

  2. Why did it happen?

  3. How could I have prevented it?

  4. What did I learn?

  5. What will I do better next time?

 

It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities

 

J.K. Rowling

Bounce Ability

Categories:  Personal development

Bounce Ability!

I am delighted to announce..... that I have just finished the final edit for my next book on resilience which will be published on the 13th February 2013 by Capstone Wiley.

This book has been a labour of love and such an education to write. I was so fortunate to be able to interview people and share their experiences as well as my own. Some people certainly seem to have more than their fair share of setbacks however it is remarkable how bouncy people can be! It really isn’t about how far you fall , it is all about how high you can bounce back again.

Bounce Ability

The new book will look at 10 key strategies which will include the following:

1.Take a journey of self discovery

Understanding yourself is the first port of call and then reminding yourself of your strengths and accomplishments is key.

2. See the glass half full

Being an optimist does not mean being naive and ignoring the problem. It means understanding that setbacks are transient and that you have the skills and abilities to combat the challenges you face.

3. Take emotional control

Being emotionally aware and recognising how you can potentially react in certain situations will help you to take more self control. It will also help you to be more considerate with regards to how your reaction can affect other people.

4. Change for the better

Flexibility is an essential part of being able to manage change and, by learning how to be more adaptable, you will be much better equipped to respond to any life crisis you experience.

5. Cope well with conflict

Conflict is an inevitable part of life. We all have different personalities and along with those go belief systems, values, perspectives, likes and dislikes. Some conflict can be difficult and, at times, unsettling –-especially if you take it personally and are very sensitive.

6. Embrace probortunities

The word probortunity is a hybrid between the word “problem” and “opportunity” and looks at the concept of taking every problem situation and seeking out the opportunity. It works on the premise that even in every crisis situation an opportunity will arise and there will be some benefit.

7. Look after yourself

This is the time when you need to work on building your self-nurturance skills, especially when you are troubled. Making time to invest into your wellbeing will boost your overall health and resilience and you will be better equipped to be face life's challenges.

8. Make connections

Building and sustaining a strong network of supportive friends, family and work colleagues will act as a protective factor during times of crisis. It is important to have people you trust and can confide in.

9. Keep going

Winston Churchill summed this up perfectly. “If you are going through hell, keep going.” There is a lot be said for picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and carrying on. Being resilient is about the ability to bounce back and get on with life.

10. Create a vision

In times of crisis or when you are feeling low it is good to hold on to your dream and not lose sight of the fact that you can always have something to look forward to. There are lots of benefits to creating a vision and setting goals.


Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.

Confucius

 

Mobile Manners

Categories:  Personal development

For many people it would be difficult to imagine a life without a mobile phone. It is the most common artificial appendage and whilst there are a multitude of obvious benefits there is also the need for people to observe mobile manners!

Screen with coloured speech balloonsThese days mobile phone capabilities seem endless. Whilst making calls is the primary function, now you can surf the internet, take photos, record videos, download an entire libraries of information and navigate your way around the world with Google Earth!. With apps galore we are just waiting for the next amazing function.

Mobile phones can also however cause accidents, be a source of immense irritation and have a detrimental effect on interpersonal communication. So often now if a mobile phone bleats it’s owner will bow to its beck and call. How many times when you are with someone do you feel marginalised by their technological gadgets?...You may, if you are lucky get a “Oh sorry do you mind if I just take this call?” More often than not your sentence will be left in midair as something more interesting for your companion comes along!

Wouldn’t it be great if every mobile phone came along with a little book of mobile manners that everyone adhered to!

 

 

 

Well here is a list of tips that will help you to manage your mobile and set the example for others to embrace too:

Tip One - Do make the person you are with feel more important than your mobile phone. Be present when you are with people. Switch your phone to silent, or better still, off, and put it away.

Tip Two - Be mindful about not developing a dependency on constant communication. It simply is not healthy. Do you really need to have your phone with you all the time?

Tip Three - Take offyour earpiece when you are not on the phone. This will stop you from looking a bit silly. Plus, who wants to talk to someone who is so obviously on call alert.

Tip Four -You don’t need to speak louder into your mobile than any other phone you use. These gadgets have incredibly sensitive microphones. Honestly!

Tip Five -Answer your phone as soon as it goes off. Not everyone wants to listen to a mobile phone ringing for ages, even if your latest ring tone sounds 'cool' to you.

Tip Six -Be aware that people around you are listening if you answer your phone in public. Not everyone wants to hear what you are saying to someone else and could find it offensive, embarrassing or just plain boring!

Tip Seven -Absolutely under no circumstances use your mobile phone when you are driving. Let’s face it some people have a problems mastering vehicles and phones individually let alone trying to multitask the two together!.This is a recipe for disaster.

Tip Eight - The ultimate display of etiquette has to be not using your mobile phone on the loo. Need I say more ...................!



Apparently we love our own mobile phones but we hate everyone else's

Joe Bob Bridges

In pursuit of your dreams

Categories:  Personal development

One of the things that keeps me sane or at least stops me from feeling fed up is having something to strive for. I like setting goals and I love achieving them. I do have a tendency sometimes to set too many and I am guilty of falling off track especially if I don’t record exactly what it is I want to achieve.

Goal settingSetting goals is a great way to keep you motivated and having something to look forward can help you to feel more inspired and positive. Your goals do not have to be huge scary milestones. In fact it is very important that when we set ourselves goals that whilst we may want to stretch ourselves, we ensure that they are achievable.

There are lots of benefits to setting goals. First and foremost, they help you to develop clarity which is the first step to helping you achieve what you want in life. If you have clear goals and focus on them, you will get more of what want and less of what you don’t want. When you are clear about where you want to go, you can set up a plan with some steps and actions of how to get there. This will also increase your efficiency because you are working on what is really important.

When you work on what’s important to you, you will get what you really want in life, rather than settling for “whatever comes your way”.

As you set and reach you goals, you will in turn become more confident in your ability to do what you say and get what you want in life. Success most definitely breeds more success. In my view people can make their own luck!

One of the main reason that your brain needs goals is that it behaves as a goal-seeking mechanism, similar to a precision-guided missile.

It is also useful to think of a time when maybe you haven’t felt so good, perhaps a time when you have been a bit lost and depressed. The likely hood is that it will be a time when you have had nothing to look forward to and felt that there was a lack of hope and direction in your life. This can be a reminder and a motivator that having a goal is a positive thing and let’s face it, everyone needs a good reason for getting up in the morning!

Incredibly only 3% of people have proper written goals. According to research people who actually make a record of their goals accomplish 80% more than those who don’t. So it is well worth creating a personal action plan if you really want to pursue your dreams and make them happen!. If you would like a complimentary copy of an electronic action plan email liggy@liggywebb.com

Goal Setting Tips

  • Positively embrace the benefits of goal setting
  • Be clear about why you are trying to achieve something
  • Use the SMART formula Set goals that you are committed to
  • Ensure that you record your personal action plan
  • Share your plan with someone else
  • If it is important to you – Stick with it!

I love this quote!

I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I have just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.

Diane Ackerman

Making a difference

Categories:  Personal development

Last week was very inspiring. I have been working with ASDA and I have to say I always feel so inspired whenever I work with this organisation. Their strap line for service is happy to help and it strikes me that this is a business that engenders a culture that motivates people to be very happy to go to work! It is a great business with enthusiastic people who want to make a difference.

It made me really ponder the concept of making a difference and how the key to a happy life is about discovering our purpose. When my friend Melanie's son Matthew was little, he used to ask people, "What are you for?" What a great question! I wonder how often we stop and ask ourselves the same question?

When we can clearly define our purpose it helps us to shape our existence and in turn will help others around us. I believe that a positive purpose has to be the ultimate feel good factor. It is the key that ignites us to feel more motivated and happy about our lives.

When I wake up believing that I can add value to the world around me it gives me the life force and energy that sometimes may be lacking on days when I perhaps don’t feel so good. If you haven’t defined your purpose yet then you have the opportunity right here, right now to embark on an exciting voyage of discovery.

According to some philosophies, our purpose is the central key to living a positive human life. Others believe that our purpose is not fixed and instead we can freely choose what we want it to be. It is, indeed, a deeply philosophical debate.

For some people, a purpose in life is an essential and fundamental aim, and for other people, fulfilment and purpose is halted by fear of failure or lack of motivation or just a blind desire to want to pleasure seek for themselves only .

It would appear, however, that people who have meaning and purpose in their lives are happier, feel more in control and get more out of everything they do. They also experience less stress, less anxiety and are less prone to experience prolonged bouts of depression.

I love this story about the little boy and the starfish, it demonstrates that we all have a value and with positive intention we can all make a difference no matter how great or how small.

 

StarfishOne day a man was walking along the beach when he noticed a small boy picking something up and gently throwing it into the ocean. Approaching the boy, he asked, "What are you doing?"

The little boy who was called Tom replied, "I am saving all the starfish that have been stranded on the beach. The surf is up and the tide is going out and if I don’t throw them back, they will die".

The man looked around and noticed that there were miles and miles of beach and literally thousands of starfish.

He looked at the beach again and then at Tom and said, "Well, you won’t make much of a difference, will you?"

After listening politely, Tom bent down, picked up another starfish, and threw it back into the sea. Then, looking up, Tom smiled and said to the man, "I made a difference for that one".

 

You're the only one who can make the difference.

Whatever your dream is, go for it.

Earvin Magic Johnson

 

Count your blessings

Categories:  Personal development

I have just returned from a trip to Ethiopia working with the United Nations Economic Commission for Africa. I feel very fortunate to have spent some time with such a wonderful group of people and as with any of my trips away with the UN I feel enriched for the experience.

United Nations Economic Commission for AfricaAdis Abada is the capital city of Ethiopia and is often referred to as "the political capital of Africa", due to its historical, diplomatic and political significance for the continent. The city is populated by people from many different regions of Ethiopia with over 100,000 people living on the streets. Witnessing extreme poverty is a humbling experience and most certainly makes me count my blessings of which I have so many. Whilst everything I believe is relative it does make me appreciate that I am very fortunate to live in a society where we have so much more available to us.

A while ago I was doing some work in Ethiopia. On my way to work each morning, I passed a crippled man sitting in the street who each day would smile and say hello. I stopped one morning to see what he was making and noticed that he had a small box with a few plastic pens. They looked rather old and worn. He was however transforming them by very slowly and cleverly weaving the colours of the Ethiopian flag in fine thread in yellow and green and red. I complimented him on his workmanship to overcome the language barrier and saw the pride in his eyes.

Each day I noticed that just a few more pens piled up in his box and I asked him how long it took to do each one. With lots of gestures I learned that he managed to do about six in a day. As I looked at his gnarled and crippled hands I realised that each one took a great deal of effort.

On my last day there I decided to buy some of the pens for my friends and family. As I walked towards him he smiled and handed me a pen and as I dipped into my pocket to pay, he shook his head and insisted I took the pen. It was a gift. This gesture touched me to the core. The fact that he could give so generously when he had so little made my heart sing.

The generosity of human spirit never ceases to surprise me and to quote from the wonderful creed for life that is Desiderata – with all its sham drudgery and broken dreams it is still a beautiful world …with beautiful people…so be cheerful and strive to be happy.

If you would like a copy of Desiderata email me on liggy@liggywebb.com

The joy of blogging

Categories:  Personal development

This is my first proper blog. As a writer I really ought to have embraced blogging long ago however with all good intentions I never seemed to have got around to it. No more excuses! I made a decision that on May 1st 2012 I would fully embark on the joy of blogging!!

I do actually like the term blog – so much more catchy than web log - and it’s quite exciting that I now have a new vocation in life. I am officially, as of today, a blogger. This sounds like fun to me.

There are three bloggers who have inspired me Richard Denny, Colin Gautrey and Jacky Leonard. All of whom write inspiring, entertaining and informative blogs.

My hope is that my blogs will add value to people’s lives. The theme will be very much focused on positive thinking, resilience and modern life skills. These three key areas I have discovered through my research, writing and presentations are so important with regards to helping improve the quality of people’s lives. I want to make a difference. I want to support people to be able to cope better with some of the adversity and challenges that life throws our way. Life can be very difficult and with stress related illness almost common place people need more support to be able to cope better and I am dedicated to doing what I can to help others.

I am very excited that, from some of the feedback I receive, what I do helps people to look at things from a different perspective. To challenge and change some of their thinking. I like to think of myself as “perceptionist” – I credit this term to my friend Jacky as so often I am faced with “realists” who on occasions attempt to marginalise the concept of optimism in the face of a necessary reality check!

Reality in my opinion is about perspective. We have the choice to view any situation any way we want to. I choose to be an optimist and I choose to believe that out of every crisis situation there is an opportunity. Life is what you make it and, through my blogs, I have every intention of helping others to positively improve the quality of their lives by changing some of their habits and perspectives. We are all people in progress with unlimited potential. It is so exciting to imagine what we are capable of and what life has in store for us all.

This Happy Pack is a good place to start http://www.liggywebb.com/happy_2012.pdf